Hey, my awesome Tribelet of Mini-Women! I’m sorry I couldn’t be with you last week. I was in Colorado Springs taping a radio interview for Focus On the Family about bullying. It airs October 10, and I’ll be posting a link for you here.
Meanwhile you’ve been carrying on GREAT without me! You’ve all prayed for Kaylee and her family about her mom’s cancer, offering her some Bible verses to her to lean on. And you’ve given each other assistance with those emojis that are a mystery to people like me. You have truly become a community, and I’m proud of you.
Our group has a new member: Savannah! Ladies, let’s give her a huge Tween You and Me welcome.
So, it looks like we have the shaving issue under control. Most of you have healthy attitudes about it, and I think we can all agree that even though some of us like the look and feel of smooth legs and pits, hair itself isn’t this heinous (super ugly) thing that has to be gotten rid of the minute we see it. Whew! Glad that’s settled!
There’s still one thing about your changing bodies that we haven’t talked about and that, of course, is The Period. Most of you have said in your comments that you know about menstruation, whether it’s happen for you yet or not, and that your moms are okay with me talking about it here. If your mom isn’t, scroll down to the part in red print. Otherwise, read on, Mini-Women!
We’ll spend more than one post on this, so this week let’s focus on our attitude about this deal that’s going to happen every month until you’re 50 or 60. Trust me, that is a LONG time, so a healthy point of view about it will make your life SO much easier.
A few things I hear from girls — and some things that might help:
(1) It’s the thing that freaks you out most about growing up right now. It seems like such a big deal! Actually it IS a big deal. There’s the keeping-clean part of it and the aches and pains that sometimes come with it and the oh-my-gosh=I’m -really-becoming -a- woman part of it. If you weren’t at least a little bit concerned about it, I’d wonder if you were really paying attention! It’s okay to be nervous.
(2) Other girls are telling you horror stories about having blood on their clothes at the worst possible times or starting their first period when nobody was around but their brother or having cramps so bad that … Well, you get the idea. I’m not saying don’t trust your friends, but in this case it would be better to trust me. We’re going to cover all of that in the weeks to come. For now, just know this: if having a period every month was as terrible as some people make it out to be, why isn’t every woman walking around crying all the time? I mean, seriously …
(3) You’re embarrassed by the whole thing — to the point that you don’t even want to talk to your mom about it. It’s so, um, personal … And so normal! At first it seems like it would be totally mortifying to discuss it but when you think about it, every woman who has ever lived has experienced it, so why would something that concerns half the population be impossible to talk about? Okay, so you’re not going to go around bringing it up with everybody you run into. Hello? Absurd Little Creature boys? But moms want to help and so do other adult women who have been where you are. Nobody needs to enter this unknown territory alone.
For this week, just think about this, and post a comment if you want to:
When it comes to the whole period thing:
(a) I’m so freaked out I think I’ll skip this series here on TYAM
(b) I’m nervous about it but I want to learn more so I’m in
(c) I’m okay with it. I mean, it’s normal and I have to deal with it so, post on, Nancy Rue!
(d) I am completely jazzed about having periods. It feels so grown-up!
Before next Wednesday’s post, why not take out your Talking To God Journal and ask God any questions you have about periods (like why on EARTH He thought up such a thing!) and let him know what has you a little concerned (I can hardly remember to brush my teeth, much less deal with the whole pad thing …) If you get any answers or a sense of peace, will you tell us about it?
See you next week when we’ll talk about the GOOD news about periods. And yes, there IS some!
Blessings, Nancy Rue